Sex Myth-Busting 101: When Abstinence Isn’t the Problem

In recent years, DIY sex advice columns and online forums have proliferated, offering readers a safe space to seek guidance on intimate matters without fear of judgment or censorship. While this trend is laudable, it also creates an environment where misinformation can spread quickly. A letter to Slate’s “How to Do It” column highlights the dangers of misapplied advice when it comes to sex and vaginal health.

The writer, a single woman in her early 30s, expressed concern that her lack of partnered sex might lead to vaginal atrophy or other negative consequences when she finally becomes sexually active. She had heard this warning from an unknown source but found no evidence to support the claim after digging deeper.

Vaginal atrophy is a well-documented symptom leading up to, during, and past menopause, caused by decreased estrogen levels. However, the advice that often accompanies this condition – “use it or lose it” – can be misleading. The idea that women need to have sex with a partner in order to maintain vaginal health is not supported by medical evidence.

In fact, masturbation can do just as much (if not more) to promote blood flow and lubrication. This challenges the assumption that women’s physical health depends on partnered sex. A well-balanced diet, regular exercise, adequate hydration, and stress management are also crucial for maintaining healthy vaginal tissue.

For those who are not currently sexually active, masturbation can be a safe and effective way to promote blood flow and lubrication. Our cultural attitudes towards female sexuality contribute to the perpetuation of myths that can harm women’s self-esteem and confidence.

These myths assume that women need to be having sex with men in order to maintain their physical health. This is not only unsupported by medical evidence but also ignores the importance of a well-balanced lifestyle for vaginal health. Millions of women around the world are living in states of physical and emotional discomfort due to lack of information or misinformation about their bodies.

We owe it to them – and to ourselves – to create a culture where sex education is accurate, accessible, and empowering. By promoting inclusive and evidence-based understanding of female sexuality, we can help break down the myths that hold women back and promote healthier attitudes towards their bodies.